Watch for monthly posts to learn about these 5 SEL competencies and ideas on how to help your children develop these skills

Self Management – According to CASEL, self-management is the ability to manage one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations and to achieve goals and aspirations. This includes the capacities to delay gratification, manage stress, and feel motivation and agency to accomplish personal and collective goals.

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  • Identifying and using stress management strategies
  • Exhibiting self discipline and self motivation
  • Setting personal and collective goals
  • Using planning and organizational skills
  • Showing the courage to take initiative
  • Demonstrating personal and collective agency

What can you do at home?


  1. Set boundaries. For example: no phone/tablet/video games until their room is clean or homework is done. No friends over/social events until homework is completed. Set a curfew. Follow through on discipline.
  2. Have routines and consistency. Have a bedtime routine and consistent bedtime.
  3. Model the behavior you want to see. It’s okay to be mad, but it’s not okay to be mean! Shouting/yelling at your kids shows them you can’t regulate yourself and that it’s okay to talk to people that way. Instead, tell them you’re angry/annoyed/frustrated and that you need a minute to calm down.

Bonus ideas

  1. Create family chore lists with assignments for each member of the family. When everyone has completed their task, play a game, have a treat, watch a movie together, go out for dinner, do something fun together.
  2. Set family goals. Save up to do something fun together. Get all the chores done during the week so Saturday can be a day of fun/relaxation/free day.